DIE EMPTY ~ Todd Henry

When the student is ready, the teacher will come.  And with such a fabulous lesson!!

After I’d read Og Mandino & Brene Brown, my heart felt primed & ready to go, but my head said, “Uh, guys – I don’t know HOW to do what you have me aching to do.

While Brene got my heart soul brain sharing the same track & Og upgraded my rickety internal infrastructure, making it capable of supporting a strong structure, TODD HENRY gave me the a) blue prints, b) building materials & c) knowledge to create something lasting, valuable.

Brene & Og were inspiring, uplifting;  Todd put me to work.

Die Empty – unleash your best work every day calls us to live flat-out, pursuing our dreams rather than dithering away in a life of comfortable mediocrity.  And he includes high achievers among those living mediocre lives & people barely scraping by as among those on track to die empty, having left it all out on the field of action.

Success in emptying yourself of your best work each day depends on your ability to define the right battles, and to do the small but critical tasks that move you forward to your true objectives, goals.”

Know what really & truly matters to me, a daunting task requiring us to know who really we are & what we truly want, knowledge that requires an introspection that makes me want to run upstairs, dive under the covers & go to sleep.  (sleep is my default to constructive action)

many people would rather wither on the vine than begin to attempt working toward more, toward better for fear of the discomfort it would cause.

No getting around having to get past that the obstacles littering our path to self knowledge, but it has to be done if we are going to understand what really matters to us.  Once we know what really matters, life should get simple, since what we should be focused on what draws us closer to our goal, letting everything the keeps us stagnant or (gasp!) moves us away drop away.

So many of us – myself included – resist resist resist UNDERSTANDING that our success is determined as much or more by stopping doing doing what keeps us stuck or moves us back as it is by any determined new steps we take to move closer to our goal. Todd covers that & gives a solution.

By breaking big tasks down into manageable bites – the 7 deadly sins of mediocrity;  follow your F.A.T.E. ~ Focus, Assets, Time, Energy;  the three kinds of work ~ Mapping, Making, Meshing – Todd makes the steps he shares accessible manageable doable.

Will never know if Todd’s book is as exceptional as it feels to me, whether I was in the right place to hear & ACT on what he says, a combination or something totally outside my ken.  I do know that Die Empty & his Louder Than Words kick started me into action.

We will see how great a student I am of the master.  Can tell you this – Todd leaves me no excuse to say, “I didn’t know how.”   


Okay, I finished reading THE AGELESS WAY on Monday,  wrote my 2nd review about it yesterday, was geared up to tackle the end-of-chapter Reflections, when it hit me – last night – that the book has exerted a greater power over me than I’d imagined.

Last night, John & I were at a “Designing Your Dream Day,” part of Be Well Cafe‘s Wellness Speaker Series.  A table of five women, ranging in age from early twenties to forties, sat to my left.  They looked like the sort of friendship circle that most touches my heart, so I introduced myself & shared my happiness at seeing them together.  Then, to my shock, I heard “There’s a book you should get & read together!” come out of my mouth! And I dove right in, describing THE AGELESS WAY.

As I started describing Karen Sands’ opus, they edged back a bit in their seats, like they suspected they were dealing with a crazed publisher, but as I described THE AGELESS WAY – the generous margins, the interweaving of subject matter, that reading it would give them an unmeasurable advantage moving forward in their lives – they leaned toward me.

I am NOT the sort of person who goes around advocating authors & their books, but I am convinced that reading Karen’s book – all the people & stories & lives she draws into it, as well as her own strong clear clarifying voice – would put all of us in a terrific place, whether we are aging upward from 20, 40, 60, 80, 100.

The depth of my belief harks back to…  dessert.  Young adulthood is the equivalent of Jello – tasty but still a bit wobbly.  Our middle years blend into a luscious pudding – cool creamy delectable.  But our upper years – ah, they beat the other two on every count!  They combine into a fabulous trifle, delectable layer upon layer beckoning others to dip deep down & discover a sampling of our textures & flavors.

That could equally describe THE AGELESS WAY.  I have just gotten through the first layer; the second automatically formed through my personal response – underlines words comments throughout the book.  Am just started on the third – journaling my impressions, jotting down the quotes that speak most deeply to me, recording what I jotted in the margins.  Then, will onto the fourth – going through the exercises at the end of each chapter.

That IS a lot of work & will take way more time than doing the end-of-chapter exercises as I read through.  We all read differently.  That would work for many, maybe most people.  For good or ill, when a book calls to ME, it can take eons to fully finish it.  The deeper the call, the longer the read.  I need to take the time to concoct a trifle – with some books, the treasured few, Jello & pudding won’t cut it.

Again, I urge everyone 20+ to read & experience THE AGELESS WAY.  As I told the circle of friends next to us last night, it will touch deepen enrich your life experience in unimagined ways.


I’ve spent days, weeks reading THE AGELESS WAY   Will spend more weeks journaling.  Will cap that by printing out the workbook Karen so generously makes available, using it as my guide in processing through the end-of-chapter reflections.   But my way isn’t yours ~ some people will get a lot just reading through it, without even doing the exercises.  Do what works for YOU.

As for me…  Well, it was a couple years back that I learned that, with certain books (a precious few), a DEEP read works best for me.  A former student  (Blessings on you, Andy Adams!),  now a successful serial entrepreneur, recommended  The Greatest Salesman in the World  after  I griped about what I felt was my weak internal infrastructure.  He suggested I read a book by an author by the curious name of Og Mandino.  I ordered it that very night!  From reading that book as the author intended, I learned that some books – the few – are meant to be read, reread, reread again & again, leading to more than fresh insight & inspiration. Leading to permanent, glorious transformation

I started reading The Greatest Salesman in the World when I was 63, finished it a year later.  Andy’s hunch was right – it tightened up & strengthened my previously woefuly weak inner infrastructure.  I’ve always wondered what I could do for him to fully express my appreciation for his life-evolving, world-changing advice.


But not anymore.

Thanks, Karen, for writing the perfect “thank you” gift – your glorious trifle,  THE AGELESS WAY.