Go through, not around

Relationships are messy complicated crazy.  And worth the work to set them right.  Going around issues can end up with going in circles instead of getting through.  Blech!

A couple years back, when John & I were going through a dicey time, triggered by the same gunk currently clogging the arteries of our relationship, an older friend was crestfallen – “I like to think of the two of you as having a special relationship, not as having problems.”   Like then, our present predicament doesn’t strike me as dire.  Quite the opposite – the older I get & the longer I’m married, the more it hits home that it’s the rare marriage that doesn’t face an occasional period of adjustment.

We might come to bumps on our road, be faced with the occasional pothole, even come to a full stop, but that doesn’t mean the journey is over.  We just have to get our bearings, reassess where we’re going & why, then get back on course.  Or change direction.

Churchill said, “When you’re going through hell, keep going.”  Don’t fall back on iffy short cuts or inching around instead of working through.  The light at the end of the tunnel could be a train heading straight at us or it could be a bright new NOW.  Gotta keep trekking down the track to find out.

Author: auntdeev

playfulness coach, life enthusiast & general instigator, ENTJ, cat lover

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