First book up – Jen Sincero’s YOU ARE A BADASS ~ ~ how to stop doubting your greatness & start living an awesome life

Since my 20178 page-a-day calendar is taken from YOU ARE A BADASS *  ~ and~ it’s the inspiration for the working title for my book about Mom (BADASS GRANDMA), figured it was THE book to start my look at the authors who got me to the end of a quest that lasted going on 2/3 of my life!

Jen Sincero had me at the first page of her intro – “Compared to the majority of the planet, my life was a total cream puff.  But compared to what I knew I was capable of, I was, shall we say, unimpressed.”  It wasn’t about the many accomplishments Jen had already racked up, but the more much more she KNEW was possible, that she knew was shrieking to get OUT.

Like Jen, there were years where I’ve felt mired in meh, punctuated by spurts of accomplishment & fleeting glory.  Deep inside, she knew her truth – “I KNEW I was a total rock star, that I had the power to give & receive & love with the best of ’em, that I could leap tall buildings in a single bound & could create anything I put my mind to…”  Amen, hallelujah & me too, sister!

Jen talks about having the cojones to show up as our best, most dazzling, “badassiest” version.  And that truly does take brass balls, because there WILL be people – maybe even your family or BFF – who will take the attitude, “Who are YOU to think it’s possible to do be propagate awesomeness?  Pretty big for your britches if you ask me, little missy/mister.”  Too many are talked out of the big jump & opt to settle rather than soar.

Chalk me up as blessed – I know a lot of soarers.  Erica rocking academia & beyond with her badass psych teaching & studies, Beth running a 5-star preschool, Jonathan’s brilliance shockingly grounded, Andy setting set out to satisfy his craving to LEARN & inadvertently positioning himself as a world class leader (which he actually always was), Annie capturing souls along with smiles in her photos, Ryan & Adriann feeding the multitudes’ spirits as well as their tummies, Margaret…  Gail…  Dave… Candy…  Len… Janie… Pete… Trisha… Edie…  Cass…   All these & SO many bright shining stars of WOWness fill my skies.

I grieve for those who have to deal with friends & family trying – from the best of motives – to talk them off the ledge & who do their mightiest to keep them from taking bold leaps into the unknown.  What joy to have the sort of amigos & cherished ones who, instead, letter quotes like Guilliaume Apollinaire’s  to showcase on my desk:

“Come to the edge,” he said.
“We can’t, we’re afraid!” they responded.
“Come to the edge,” he said.
“We can’t, We will fall!” they responded.
“Come to the edge,” he said.
And so they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.”

My besties & buddies are totally ready to push me off any number of ledges – but I never doubt they’ll form a net, should I need one.

Not a single one scoffed when I went to my first National Center for Creative Aging National Leadership Exchange & Conference what feels like ten years ago (it was 2014) ~or~ my first Leading to Well Being Conference in 2015 ~or~ when I attended four (or was it five) conferences & workshops in 2016.  In 2017, a year marked with uncharacteristically low income levels, no one questioned why I’d sink a bundle into going to the 5-day International Association of Gerontology & Geriatrics (IAGG) World Congress in San Francisco, when I don’t sport so much as a single credentialed letter after my name.  All I got was “Bon voyage!” & “Knock their socks off!”  No one seems shocked to find me kicking off  the Philadelphia chapter of the Radical Age Movement, all are egging me on to submit a proposal for a presentation (Postcards from the Trenches) at April’s Masterpiece Lyceum conference  – Making Chronological Age Irrelevant.

As wonderful as it is, it also means I can’t fall back on “THEY aren’t supporting me.”  Everyone – especially my John – is.  I have NO excuse to not leap.

Yes, Jen, I do know that I am “extremely well-poised to knock it out of the park & share (my) awesomeness with the world, because the world NEEDS smart people with huge hearts & creative minds, people who feel happy & fulfilled & loved, who radiate self-love & living-large & on purpose, who believe we live in a world of infinite possibilities.”  Pardon my cojones, but that’s me all over.

At the end of her intro, Jen describes the choice I’ve had to face, that I recommit myself to every day — If you put your disbelief aside, roll up your sleeves, take some risks, and totally go for it, you’ll wake up one day & realize you’re living the kind of live you used to be jealous of.

Amen & hallelujah & YEEEEEE HA!


Defining BADASS –  a person who is independent & competent enough to do what they want, regardless of whether it’s popular, or even allowed.  A badass is someone who rolls up her sleeves, knows what she wants to do, is open to the risks & flat-out goes for it.  Who can laugh at themselves while taking their pursuit seriously, love themselves & others, who are wise enough to “rejoice in the cosmic ridiculousness” of it all.







Author: auntdeev

playfulness coach, life enthusiast & general instigator, ENTJ, cat lover

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