When you are ready, your tribe shows up. Shows up without effort on your part. They appear, ready for YOU to take the important step of recognizing accepting embracing them.
And we can have different tribes at different times of our lives, as part of different aspects of our lives. But our true tribe tribe is something special, people (or animals) who connect to a special place within us.
The arrival of a tribe can be an “At last!” experience or a WOW surprise. My mother didn’t expect to find & build a large tribe in her late 80s, early 90s, one that was there for her in good times & rough patches, in decent health & her final days. They were an online presence in her life – and she in theirs – & she never did meet many of them, but they were a rock & anchor over her last 2+ years with us. As Mom wrote in an ancient e-mail, she just assumed that her circle of friends would grow smaller & smaller as she grew older & older, but instead – to her delight – it not only grew bigger & bigger as new requests to be placed on her e-mail dist list rolled it, most of them were young enough to be her children or even grandchildren. Finding that tribe took no effort on Mom’s part – it came to her.
Okay, it took an effort – she made the decision to venture online, to be part of several conversations that were only happening over e-mail (this was 1999, pre-blogging). But once she knocked at that virtual door, she was astonished by the response from what felt like a tribe that had been waiting for HER to show up among them.
My tribe has been showing up in dribs & drabs over half a century, but the whoosh of new members since July’s IAGG World Congress has been every bit as astonishing as Mom’s showing up in her e-mail.
When the student is ready, the teacher will come. In 2017, I learned the same is true with your tribe. Return the welcome & join in.