So, doing the face-off the TWO David Richo books vying for space on my list of 25 books that got me to Now showed me how to introduce the rest of them. Except I’m totally bustin’ up that template for this remarkable book by Charles Foster. Taking the super easy way to give its intro – share the Amazon review I wrote some 12+ years after first reading it:
This book was published the same year I totally mangled a sensitive conversation with someone who really mattered in my life. Reading Dr. Foster’s book a couple years later, winced every time I saw one of the mistakes I’d made.
His book lifted up my spirits – I hadn’t been as dumb & thoughtless & ham-fisted as I’d thought, only a typical human making the typical mistakes around a delicate conversation.
By delaying talking about it, by bringing it up in precisely the worst way at precisely the worst time in precisely the wrong place, I turned what should have been an uncomfortable but reasonable request into throwing a Molotov Cocktail into our relationship, blowing up any semblance of friendship between us & creating an emotional crisis that remains to this day.
It was a shock to me, but hardly news to Dr. Foster – the scenario is described, almost moment to moment. And a better way is provided.
I completely agree with the reviewer who wrote that There’s Something I Have To Tell You helps develop better communication & social skills. It changed my life, helping learn when where & how to communicate more effectively. Should be required reading for every human!