John & I are happily caught in surREALity ~ facing down financial challenges that would daunt our earlier selves, confident in the knowledge they’re the ONLY things weighing us down. Every other aspect of our lives gives us wings to soar over a tangled landscape, discovering new vistas & overgrown paths; beckoning others to find the ancient, too-often forgotten awareness that ALL of our life is designed for wholeness & joy.
Quite the turn around from earlier this week, when I was uncharacteristically bummed. Our newest client decided that, at 90+, she wasn’t up to the rehab we whisked her to & from. What stung, more than feeling the loss of income we NEED, was the loss of connecting with a remarkably active older woman.
We’ve lined up three clients since May; each one has said good bye (in addition to our most recent opting out of rehab, one family decided that enrichment, not covered under Medicare, was too $ while another went with a service offering more care options).
The Universe is sending a message – move on, this option’s been shut down.
I’m used to the Universe’s modus operandi of introducing me to new experiences, new lessons by throwing my life into an uproar. If it means tossing me out of a job – teaching, public relations, marketing support – so be it.
Learned long ago that the Universe focuses on the end, not a fleeting moment. The third time it happened, being tossed out of comfort no longer fazed me. That time, the shock lasted a scant hour before it hit me that something BIG was in store, so best to get with the unknown program.
That’s how it feels now. Yes, there are moments it feels scary. Face it – most people under value what we offer; a shocking number flat-out dismiss the importance – at all ages – of spontaneous play, of experiencing joy.
We understand. The average person caught up in the speed & stress of the age can feel dubious, even daunted, by the idea that playfulness is as essential to a healthy life as vitamins & other nutrients. What was true when we were kids, when play came as naturally as breathing, is still true today – a sense of unfettered, open playfulness is essential to our well-being. Way too many adults have gotten so used to the base note of stress underscoring modern life & don’t realize how dangerous a lack of regular FUN is to their health well-being prosperity
Our society focuses on work, on production, on racking up tangible results that can be measured calculated quantified. Aka, the opposite of play, which requires a sense of the unfettered, the freely done & freely received.
Someone has to stand for getting more play into everyone’s lives, to infect our older friends with glee & laughter & a light heart. The Universe tapped us.
My reality is that every time I find work that provides personal satisfaction, a decent income & serves others, the Universe ultimately yanks me out, tosses me into a void awaiting structure. “Okay, you learned the lessons this work can provide – onto the next,” it seems to say.
The first time, I went from a teacher to a balloon seller to a editor/public relations maven. The second, the shift was from public relations & advertising to account executive. The third lead me to elder care.
None of them were places I would ever have predicted, ESPECIALLY the last. All of them provided essential lessons that will serve me – us – well in being eldercare (r)evolutionaries, set on disrupting the current woeful culture society uses to straitjacket too many oldsters elders ancients. I didn’t set out to do this work. If I’d had my original druthers, I be winding down a wonderful life as a junior high teacher.
The Universe has other plans.
While that sounds whackily New Ageish to a lot of people, experience taught me long ago that there is reason to what could appear calamity. Surreal? Yes. As in phantasmagorical.
Phantasmagorical – “changing or shifting, as a scene made up of many elements.” Yes, that sums up how my life has turned out. “As something in a dream or created by the imagination” – that works, too. I’ve come to have complete faith in the unforeseen, the out of left field.
When it comes to stuff – to school tax & ancient cars, cat food & weekly groceries – we admit to being in a temporarily dicey place. When it comes to everything else, all is awesome, beyond the beyond. In ways other than the material, the here & now, the temporal, we push pursue put the REAL in surreality!